Over the last few months we’ve been working on getting my girlies’ epilepsy meds sorted out…what this means is that my lovely daughter who was always terribly sweet, empathetic, polite and charming turned into a wild, loud, rude, angry, aggressive, overtly emotional kid. The type of kid that you may see in Target screaming because you won’t let them buy those cheap princess toys at the checkout line. Or maybe you just happened to see us at Target. Everything became a battle, literally almost everything was a bargaining session. There was door slamming that was tantamount of my teenage years. (sorry about that Mom) There were moments where I would pretend to go to the bathroom just to escape. Sometimes I would go in there and just silent scream. You know where you scream and no sound comes out and somehow that makes you feel better.
Worse yet it was the effing meds. So she couldn’t even begin to try to control it, so getting frustrated seemed incredibly ill placed.
Now that the meds are more controlled when we see these behaviors, we are always wondering is it residual issues with meds, is it the anxiety that we’ve seen come before having a seizure, or is it just plain old 4-year-old behavior? Not sure.
I don’t know about other families but when one of the four of us is in a foul mood or having a rough time, it seems to spread rampantly. We had one of these days a few weeks ago while we were at the art museum of all places. My petite, kept crossing the line into exhibits, getting damn close or even touching the art. To the point where the staff was following us from room to room, at one point I swear I even heard over the walkie talkies, they are coming your way. We left moments before I am sure they would have kicked us out. A few days ago they were giving our free tickets to the museum, but since I am pretty sure there is a picture of me and the petites on some back room wall, we opted to stay home.
All of this makes me laugh a little because now that the meds are getting sorted out we are seeing a lot less of this craziness, but you know it still happens and it’s really all about how you react to it. I have a really hard time not being mortified when we’re in public and she throws a fit, I feel like it’s a reflection of my parenting. This of course doesn’t help when bitchy people (sometimes even other moms, WTF?) give you snarky looks – like control our child; wow, what a brat; ugh, glad my kids are so perfect. I also love the parents that give me the look like I’ve been there, those parents are my favorite. I’ve really tried not to freak out about what other parents or people think. My handsome hubby has really helped me to let it go and not worry about this. Now my mantra is: do I know these people? Do I really care what they think? If I did know them what would they do? Odds are if I was out with my friends when this happens, well I was at the museum with a friend. She laughed hysterically with me, then we went to a local brewery for a mid-afternoon lunch/mommy beer. Don’t judge, we deserved it, we were basically kicked out of an art museum.
My not so expert recommendation for veritable shit shows, try to keep your cool and if you can’t get the hell out of there and laugh about it with a friend.